It was my Freshman year of college, a crazy and confusing time for any eighteen year old. You are finally getting out into the “real world” but then realizing that you don’t know how to do anything on your own! The first week of college felt like summer camp, everything was new and exciting, then reality started to kick in. I don’t know how everyone else handled it but Freshman year I had the biggest crisis of my life so far. If you have been reading my posts from the beginning you will understand why. I had been through a lot! The thing is when you are going through those things it doesn’t really occur to you all that you are enduring. Your only focus and goal is to just get through it. So when I was finally away from all of that, I sorta snapped. I had six years of emotional garbage that I had never allowed myself to deal with.
Thankfully I had some really great friends that encouraged me to go talk to someone, so I did. That was when I was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. It was one of those things that when a label was finally put on my emotions, it all made sense. I had seriously bad anxiety issues and we pinpointed that it all started when I was twelve, the exact time that we moved back to Southern California. I don’t blame anyone for my anxiety. I feel like that would be a horrible thing to do to someone, so instead I look at it as just the way my body and mind chose to react. We all handle things very differently and at the time holding it all in was the only way twelve year old me knew how to handle it all. My ‘road to recovery’ was a semi-long process. The first thing that I needed to do was talk about it with my parents. It was hard for them to digest at first and in their defense I can see why it was so hard for them to accept it, I had done a really good job of hiding my feelings. It took awhile but they are very supportive and understanding now.
The only issue that I faced during that year was learning how to cope. The guidance counselor at my school was really great with letting me come and talk to her about my problems and just having someone listen was very beneficial but after some time I needed a little more help. I don’t know how I did it, I guess it was just my instincts from getting through things but I learned how to cope with my anxiety all by myself. It was incredibly empowering and I thank God that he gave me that strength to get through it. I am not ‘cured’, you don’t get better overnight but I have a better control on my anxiety now and it has made life a lot simpler.
If you have issues with anxiety don’t be afraid to talk about it. Admitting that there is a problem there and acknowledging that can do wonders. Find a support group, look for a friend to hold you accountable, and definitely find out what your coping mechanisms are. For me when I am feeling anxious I can do a number of things, I listen to music, read a book or a passage from the Bible, I put on a Disney movie, or play a game on my phone. All of these are very helpful tools. But most of all, have someone you can talk to about it all. Everyone deserves to have a friend that they can be open and honest with about where you are mentally and spiritually.